Hello Darlings,

Today's post is about allowing ourselves to dream; about how important it is for each of us to find our voice, our unique sense of purpose and fulfill the destiny given to us using our gifting. I'd also like to suggest some simple steps to get you started.  

I wanted to put our "I love me" series on "pause" for a bit as we talk about other topics. But before we move on, I wanted to conclude the series with something that can hopefully empower you. 

William Jennings said that destiny is not a matter of chance; it's not a thing to be waited for, it's a thing to be achieved. 

What is your dream?

What have you been daydreaming about recently?  You know, that daydream that you can't help indulging on; the one that makes heart race, and your brain go crazy with ideas to the point of practically exploding? Just talking about it make your eyes shine. The problem for some of us, is that we like so many things that we can hardly pinpoint one career that could encompass all of what we wish to do on a daily basis. As a result, we continue trying conventional jobs (that we sometimes don't really like), hoping that one day our dream job will cross our path. 

I recently heard a talk from a young entrepreneur called Hilary Rushford about how she has created and developed (successfully) her dream career. I used some of the principles she mentioned, combined with what has been happening in my own life in the past 9 months to write this post. 

Saint Antoine Exypery said that "A goal without a plan is just a wish" so, let's plan!

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We create providence

This step is called: making space to allow God to work. Yes, it is true that our steps are ordered by God (Psalm 37:5) and in so many ways our instincts and our heart's desires are skewed by our own experiences and sinful nature. However, the verse right before that says that we should delight ourselves in our relationship with our God, who has "wired" each one of us with different abilities, gifts and inclinations that when used properly, not only makes us feel alive but also helps to inspire others to shine as well. 

In 2009, I became a full time minister (which in my case, speaking and teaching the Bible is part of my gifting and wiring), which was really exciting and it empowered my entrepreneurial spirit because it meant that I would be self-employed. It's funny because this is what I had always wanted, but it was not until I sat down to write this that I realized it.  It just goes to show how God has funny and unexpected ways of answering our prayers. But I want to point out that when I was offered the opportunity to be trained in order to obtain my license, I made the decision to say yes, and to take action. If you ever want a dream to become reality, you must take one step forward. God can not take the step for us, He is ahead; He knows the end of the story. He is actually waiting for us to catch up with Him. 

Tip 1: Take action. A dream begins when it ends, when it morphs into a goal by you taking action. We sometimes talk and think too much about what we would do, but never really take action (take that first step). 

Free bonus: Amazingly, when we look to God for answers about who we ought to be, instead of searching for the answer within ourselves, we discover our essence, our true self; not the one marred by our selfishness and negativity that is rooted in sin and brokenness. Finding ourselves in Him frees us to tap into our dreams and thrive. 

When one career is not enough

A recent graduate (Criminology), with a newly acquired license (for ministry), I left home to start a new adventure. This adventure was better than school in a myriad of ways because the learning curve was so steep that I honestly, now feel it was worth thousands of dollars; it was life changing. However, the the thrill of the a adventure ran out, but not before unveiling that teaching and preaching, in conventional ways, were not the only things I liked. I discovered that I also liked to train people and help them create systems to be more efficient in their work. I also discovered that I had a natural flair for event planning, and I was also very successful at being an interpreter/translator (in 3 languages). I uncovered a passion for writing that was buried in me, and I found that though I love traveling, I must admit, actually living out of a suitcase for most of the year is really exhausting. 

After all that, I still felt like something was missing. One day, with tears in my eyes, feeling flustered and frustrated, I vented  to God in prayer. During this outpouring of my heart, I understood that I was miserable because for so many years I had not allowed myself to be artistically creative (which is also big part of my wiring). Artists will understand when I say, that the day I started looking for creative outlets, I started feeling alive and joyful again.

Tip 2: You don't have to be ONE thing in life. If God has given you the ability and inclination for many things that don't seem to coexist, stop fighting it or trying to bury part of you. He wants all of you and He smiles when you use it all to shine light in this world. 

No one benefits from you being "voiceless" or aimless

Many times we are not turning our dreams into goals because we are afraid of our own greatness and the influence our voice could have. Sometimes we simply are not sure where to start. Like Marianne Williamson says, it is often not our darkness but how bright our light can shine which intimidates us.

We sometimes digress in order to shield ourselves from criticism, to shy away from attention or to insure that we will not fail. But this story is not complete without your input, and no one benefits from us playing small. 

What is your special gift? What is your passion? What has gotten in the way of to you discover it, developing it, and putting it to work? 

There is a place for you in this spectrum. 

Tip 3: Don't be discouraged because what you're dreaming of doing has already been done. You are unique, so look for ways to put your own spin and personality on it and it will attract and bless your own, tailored audience. I am not an expert, but I have experienced this in my own life. The greatest growth and opportunities are the ones that happen organically, through real relationships because they reveal to be sustainable and satisfying.


In the past months, while spending many days in meditation, retreat with my Heavenly Father (and all my thought), and attending school, I have found a new confidence in how my purpose will look in this season of my life and how it will have shaped new goals; most of which aim on how my world will benefit from my gifts in the near future. I am so glad to have you come along for the ride with me. I will keep you updated every step of the way as my new ventures unfold. 

Here are some practical steps that I'd like to share with you: 

How is the world going to benefit from all that greatness inside you? 

With love- Val